Discipleship Through Listening and Asking Questions

In the discipling work that we do, we can contribute to our donor/friends through the process of self-discovery; that is, asking questions that draw them into deeper thinking about their own stewardship.

Before we look at the list, it is always important to remember that asking questions should be done with a humble heart, keeping in mind that we did not always "get it" nor are we the agents of change. The Holy Spirit does the heart work; we are used by Him to help others see the Lord in deeper and more profound ways.

Also, for men like me, listening is a difficult skill. It is much more than just taking turns at talking. It is a high-energy effort that requires full attention to both the "what" and "how" is being said. It means not racing ahead to the next point so we can arrive at the proper conclusion. Building relationships is a process and we need to understand that transformation (as it is for us) is a marathon, not a sprint.

Even when we have the time, we may not have the relationship yet to ask really probing questions. It is also important not to get ahead here, too. Asking permission is a good way to know how to proceed.

All that said, here are some questions that can be helpful in beginning the dialogue to generous giving:

• Why do you give?
• Who is the owner of all you possess?
• How much (money) is enough?
• What is an appropriate lifestyle?
• Where do you experience the most joy in giving?
• Who is the next steward of your resources, and is that person prepared?
• Have you considered establishing annual and lifetime giving goals?

As we ask these, remember that the Lord is asking these of us as well - it will orient our minds and hearts.